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Here you can just post whenever you are confused by something someone said or did. People are very strange creatures and we have all had times where we are confused by people, so I thought it would be interesting to hear about these experiences.
  
Well, my sister is a confusing person. She always does things that she knows will cause me to retaliate, but when I do, she screams and yells at me like a maniac. You know, like any other normal human being.
  
My brother annoys me 24/7 yet he gets confused as to why I ignore him for most of the day. I guess he really doesn't understand how annoying he is and it confuses me because he flat out says to me, "I like to annoy you."
  
Nevinnyy said:
My brother annoys me 24/7 yet he gets confused as to why I ignore him for most of the day. I guess he really doesn't understand how annoying he is and it confuses me because he flat out says to me, "I like to annoy you."

Yeah, little brothers be like that sometimes. I would know since I am the youngest brother in my family. Once he grows to about high school age, it should start to gradually stop if he matures.
  
e-bag said:
Well, my sister is a confusing person. She always does things that she knows will cause me to retaliate, but when I do, she screams and yells at me like a maniac. You know, like any other normal human being.

How old is she if you don't mind me asking?
  
12, 13 in March.
  
My parents are so oblivious to my sisters lies. She isn't good at it in the slightest, but she gets away with so much.
  
e-bag said:
12, 13 in March.

Yeah, like I said, younger siblings just be like that. Usually once they hit their high school years they'll start acting more mature.
  
why people will believe anything anyone says, without checking if its true one bit. the whole damn school thinks my and my best friend are dating. we aren't. I have a girlfriend. and its not her
  
How does this make sense:

When my sister puts the silverware away, the silverware drawer is a complete disaster.

Meanwhile, if I don't meet the bowls in the exact order, IM the one in trouble.

And I can't mention the fact that our silverware drawer is a mess because "I'm being a hypocrite"
  
That's probably the fattest F I'm gonna give all day.
  
your parents don't love you lol
  
Why you gotta do em like that Star Wars man?
  
lmao
  
lol im kidding
  
ik
  
WHEEEEEEE
  
It confuses me how my parents are SO oblivious to my sisters lying. I have caught her watching youtube or playing games. EVERY time you walk over to her and check what she is doing, the ST Math "just isnt letting her sign in". It is the exact same lie. I'm not going to tell on her, because A) She has caught me doing a few times, and B) my mom would get really mad and there would be a higher chance of me getting in trouble for something small like the dishes or something. Either my parents are complete idiots or they dont care. Both scenarios confuse me, because if I my parents knew I was not doing what I was supposed to when I was her age, I would be in huge trouble. But also my parents are very "smart". Both of their jobs require lots of thinking. Idk how they could either be oblivious or let it slide.


I am turning this into "rant about my parents" thread

I might make a thread for parenting practices that make no sense
  
they just like her more
who knows why
they just do
  
Honestly she needs to learn to lie well. It is a good skill to have. She will never be able to tell good lies if she can get by with obvious ones. I knew if I told a lie, it had to be good, so I learned how to lie and now i am pretty good at it.

Whether you believe it or not, lying is a essential skill to have. Some people want "feedback" but don't want criticism. that is a common scenario that people have. And there are people who you just cant say no to, so you lie and make an excuse. This is risky, even with a good lie tho.

anyways im kinda of ranting but i am in rant mode now so hold on


People who cant take negative feedback. I want to fucking murder them. YOU asked for my opinion. I didnt just go and tell you i didnt like it on my own. You asked for feedback. Its a problem with society as a whole. You are expected to say something positive. Honestly I hate that. if something sucks, be fucking mature and accept the fact that they dislike it. On the other side, if you make/do something and you want REAL feedback, YOU WONT GET IT. Because people cant be honest.

Segway to my next topic. People are too soft. Yeah. You got offended. Does that mean society as a whole needs to fucking change? HELL NO. But some people cant stand being offended. Im glad on one on this site is like that. There are some things that do need changing. Like racism. That needs to go. People make me more mad than they do make me confused.

Then there are the people who get offended for people. Someone says something, and they are like, "hmmm what if that offends _____" and go get mad at the person who said the thing without even considering how _____ feels.


My final topic for now is the people who are so tunnel visioned politcally that they litterally drive a wedge into society. Wanna know why most of the problems in society happen? Because people can understand the fact some people have different viewpoints. IT IS LITTERALLY TEARING THE COUNTRY APART. (btw i am talking about america) AND THOSE PEOPLE CANT SEE IT. They fricking worship their political party.

I hate people. End of story. I am going to stop ranting now because I could go for a whole essay. I hate people.

"A person is smart, but people are stupid"
  
I don't like the phrase constructive criticism. I think its a bad phrase that should be retired. Constructive criticism is a phrase that means pointing out what's wrong, bad, not working, etc.

I don't think constructive criticism is a thing to aspire to. Everyone I've ever met has been good at giving constructive criticism, some people even take pride in it.

"There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise." - Charles Schwab.

He continues,

"In my wide association in life, meeting with many and great people in various parts of the world, I have yet to find the person, however great or exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than he would ever do under a spirit of criticism."

I've shifted away from giving constructive criticism and moving toward positive encouragement. When I look at someone's work or progress, I like to find their strengths and what I like and encourage more of it. People who feel like they can do good or better and have people look for the good will improve faster and work better.

On occasion, it is necessary to point out a glaring fault and say "do not do this", but it is so overshadowed by the lavish amounts of sincere praise for what is happening right and good that it does not cloud their attitude or kill their drive to improve or succeed.
  
"None of us is as _____ as all of us."
Collective effort is a powerful thing.


I may have something to contribute in re: parenting, if you want to hear it.
  
My final topic for now is the people who are so tunnel visioned politically that they literally drive a wedge into society. Wanna know why most of the problems in society happen? Because people can understand the fact some people have different viewpoints. IT IS LITTERALLY TEARING THE COUNTRY APART. (btw i am talking about america) AND THOSE PEOPLE CANT SEE IT. They fricking worship their political party.
It’s not just different viewpoints, it’s entirely different lens on the situation that is reality.
Like, Republicans are stereotyped as racist homophobic elitists in the Democratic sector, whereas Democrats are stereotyped as anarchic socialists in the Republican sector(at least, I think?).
Essentially, in both sectors, the other party is full-on demonized; if you’re a Democrat, you’re far more likely to s••• on Republicans than a fairly neutral party because they’re horrible people to you, and vice versa.
It might not be a product of worship, it might be a problem of “well, everyone else is horrible, so this person’s the clear answer”. Not putting someone on a pedestal, just beating down everyone else so even the most horrible person seems like the best choice.

And yes, I fully agree it’s a problem. Unfortunately, society does not agree it’s a problem because they’re too busy further landmining the political field, and neither party wants to talk to the other to sort things out because demons.
It’s really sad, and super bad.
  
And that is the exact reason why we cant fix thing and why it is just getting worse
  
I agree, in my government class we talked about how political polarization has increased drastically over the years, and it's honestly scary how little people are willing to meet in the middle. I also feel like kids my age are more compromising and understanding about politics than their parents or older citizens, or at least that's how it is where I live. I almost hesitate to say this, but I feel that the cause of this rapid increase of polarization is mostly because of older people than young kids my age. I know I'm not old enough to vote so I'm not super involved in politics in that aspect, but I have friends who have different political beliefs than me and I don't cut them off for that reason. Then again, I have had to cut off friends for being straight up racist and saying derogatory slurs, but that's different I feel.

I think that society is changing more rapidly than it ever has before. Conservatives are hesitant or flat out against certain changes and Liberals are all for change, and I don't think either of them understand the other side or why they might think this way.

This is going to sound stupid and naive but I really don't understand why we can't just get along, it's really not as difficult as people make it out to be. Then again, I've been told I'm easy to get along with so everyone is different I suppose. Take everything I say with a grain of salt; I'm not the upmost expert on the current political climate, but that's just my two cents.

Also I don't know if I used that semicolon correctly...I've been trying to incorporate them into my writing but I never know if I'm correct or not. I believe that you can add a semicolon if the two parts of the sentence can stand alone, but the rule was not taught to me very well. Just another way the school system is failing me I guess...
  
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