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What do you think of today's world of online/phone app dating?
  
It's not the greatest.
  
They are terrible. It's better to find people by doing things you love doing.
  
There are a lot of problems with it, although I guess it's worked for a lot of people. It does things to my psyche, though. Even if I get into a place where I think I look pretty good, the dating apps convince me that I must be the least attractive person on the planet, burning through all my swipes every day since 2013 and still having zero matches...
  
I get matches ok, but I just get bored super quick talking to girls through text. It's always the same. Also I'm a much better talker than texter. Specially w my accent.
  
Dating apps are exhausting but can be pretty useful and rewarding too.

I was dating a guy off one for quite a while last year and part of this year. Things didn't work out because he didn't want the same level of commitment that I did, but we're still good friends now. I'm hanging out with him this Thursday in fact to watch Legend of Korra together.

I met my current partner through irl means, admittedly. I think he's a forever kind of person for me, to be honest. I feel really strongly for him, and he feels the same way.

I've gone on a few other dates with dating app folks here and there but I'll admit it's nice not having to put much energy into it these days. Partly, I think it's that I am introverted and do have a bit of social anxiety, so dating in general is really draining for me. I do have a third date with a guy coming up who I really vibed with, but also he seems to have a pretty variable schedule and isn't as good at day to day communication, so idk if that will work for me since I need a lot of consistent communication and attention in a relationship.

So, basically, YMMV, and I think it's good to check in with yourself often to make sure that dating apps aren't impacting you negatively. You can make valuable connections or even end up with new friends from them. But they can also be anxiety inducing, rough on self esteem, and other bad things too.
  
Had to look up YMMV.
  
I've been told by a lot of people my profiles and pictures aren't actually bad at all, both by people who know me, and people who coach dating for a living. So I think I might just be cursed by the algorithm.
  
No different than speed dating in the past.
  
Never did that one. I think I was married while it was still a thing.
  
Dating apps can be effective but I think they actually take a lot of the fun out of meeting new people. You don't get the giddiness and uncertainty that you'd get meeting someone in the wild.
  
Dating apps do take away from the thrill of catching a potential mate in a snare or bear trap
  
tinder banned me from tinder because i was too young to use their service
  
Eric-616 said:
Dating apps do take away from the thrill of catching a potential mate in a snare or bear trap
Yeah, I'm pulling mine from storage, gonna put a some kind of heated blanket in it and a spiced latte and see if it catches anyone.

Peridot said:
Dating apps can be effective but I think they actually take a lot of the fun out of meeting new people. You don't get the giddiness and uncertainty that you'd get meeting someone in the wild.
That makes sense.

Are you doing the polyamory thing, Erio? Or are you talking about different time periods?

there is no eleven, yeah it does remove that whole face to face in person voice, charisma, etc. that could help especially if you have an accent.
  
A heated blanket and a spiced latte just may work.
  
What do you think of today's world of online/phone app dating?
I found a great guy a year ago and we’re still at it but I think I just got really really lucky.
  
Are you doing the polyamory thing, Erio? Or are you talking about different time periods?


Polyamory, yeah :)
  
Devery said:
A heated blanket and a spiced latte just may work.
If I get really ambitious I might even throw in a kitten that wants to be held and snuggled.

That's cool, antimony, I'm glad its a great thing and still working out!
  
i wish my cat would want to be held and snuggled
  
Step in my bear trap.
  
meow
  
Eric-616 said:
Dating apps do take away from the thrill of catching a potential mate in a snare or bear trap


There are good practices that I know of and I get results

  
I recently started dating a guy I met on bumble, he's so cute :)