Two Cans & String

{ "thread_id": "12207", "posts": [ { "id": "1292337", "time": "1684814960", "html": "How do you know if someone actually likes you if the people closest to them say they have a very flirty personality? The flirting was somewhat sporadic, but his engagement with me seems to be growing more consistent? What is even considered to be flirting? I don't want to get my hopes up that someone pleasant to be around and decently attractive might be interested in me? Help?", "user": "incognitogirl" }, { "id": "1292338", "time": "1684815079", "html": "Ask", "user": "theintangiblefancy" }, { "id": "1292339", "time": "1684815475", "html": "If asking was an option I would've already done that! The point is that we are starting to become better friends and I don't want to risk making it awkward by asking them something like that...", "user": "incognitogirl" }, { "id": "1292340", "time": "1684816138", "html": "Y'all need to be more open w the people around you. If you don't know if the person is into you and you're this worried about it, just ask. There's no secret way for us to tell you they're into you over the internet.", "user": "theintangiblefancy" }, { "id": "1292362", "time": "1684850317", "html": "clearly someone hasnt heard of social stigma and the fear of being rejected", "user": "bug" }, { "id": "1292372", "time": "1684851165", "html": "J-Rob doesn't worry about those. He just does things.", "user": "ebag" }, { "id": "1292384", "time": "1684851881", "html": "Fwiw I've heard that human beings in general, regardless of gender, are only about 60% accurate in determining whether or not someone is flirting with them. Heck, they often don't realize/admit they're doing it themselves. A very good friend of mine used to flirt a *ton* with one of the guys in band whenever we'd get together. "Banter" they called it. "Banter" my foot, you could've cut the sexual tension between those two with a spoon. While they were "not flirting, we don't even like each other" the rest of us just had to avert our eyes lol", "user": "yuletidecarol" }, { "id": "1292385", "time": "1684852696", "html": "so the solution to this problem, as is the solution to everything, is to stop caring.", "user": "bug" }, { "id": "1292386", "time": "1684853096", "html": "Yes!", "user": "ebag" }, { "id": "1292387", "time": "1684853145", "html": "so true", "user": "bug" }, { "id": "1292395", "time": "1684855847", "html": "<div style=\"margin:20px; background-image:url(/images/light.png);\"><div style=\"border:1px solid #888; padding:5px;\"><a href=\"/users/bug\">bug</a> said:</div><div style=\"border:1px solid #888; padding:20px;\">clearly someone hasnt heard of social stigma and the fear of being rejected</div></div><br />The fear of being rejected is silly. The more you put yourself out there, the more you get rejected but you're also more likely to get positive responses mixed in with the rejection s and build your confidence and you realise it isn't the end of the world to be rejected. Plus just being frozen and constantly worrying that you MIGHT be rejected is way worse than the actual rejection. And then if you are rejected you can focus your thoughts and efforts on someone else.", "user": "theintangiblefancy" }, { "id": "1292396", "time": "1684855919", "html": "idk i dont have that fear i don't get rejected but probably true", "user": "bug" }, { "id": "1292397", "time": "1684856274", "html": "I get rejected all the time. But it's fine. The odds of a single person being into another single person aren't great. I also get a lot of yesses. Numbers game. Got to put yourself out there. A no isn't the end of the world. It's just an opportunity to get a yes somewhere else. Worst thing you can do is be crippled by doubt.", "user": "theintangiblefancy" }, { "id": "1292398", "time": "1684856353", "html": "<div style=\"margin:20px; background-image:url(/images/light.png);\"><div style=\"border:1px solid #888; padding:5px;\"><a href=\"/users/yuletidecarol\">yuletideCarol</a> said:</div><div style=\"border:1px solid #888; padding:20px;\">Fwiw I've heard that human beings in general, regardless of gender, are only about 60% accurate in determining whether or not someone is flirting with them. Heck, they often don't realize/admit they're doing it themselves. A very good friend of mine used to flirt a *ton* with one of the guys in band whenever we'd get together. "Banter" they called it. "Banter" my foot, you could've cut the sexual tension between those two with a spoon. While they were "not flirting, we don't even like each other" the rest of us just had to avert our eyes lol</div></div><br />I flirt with everyone.", "user": "theintangiblefancy" }, { "id": "1292401", "time": "1684858194", "html": "<img src=\"https://i.imgur.com/xjgeo9w.png\" alt=\"\" />", "user": "yuletidecarol" } ], "users": { "incognitogirl": { "name": "incognito girl", "key": "incognitogirl", "url": "/users/incognitogirl", "avatar": "/uploads/drawn/20464.png", "rankClass": "civilian", "rankText": "", "posts": "1127" }, "theintangiblefancy": { "name": "The Intangible Fancy", "key": "theintangiblefancy", "url": "/users/theintangiblefancy", "avatar": "/uploads/drawn/42050.png", "rankClass": "civilian", "rankText": "", "posts": "779" }, "bug": { "name": "bug", "key": "bug", "url": "/users/bug", "avatar": "/uploads/drawn/42619.png", "rankClass": "civilian", "rankText": "", "posts": "7041" }, "ebag": { "name": "e-bag", "key": "ebag", "url": "/users/ebag", "avatar": "/uploads/drawn/42500.png", "rankClass": "civilian", "rankText": "", "posts": "11257" }, "yuletidecarol": { "name": "yuletideCarol", "key": "yuletidecarol", "url": "/users/yuletidecarol", "avatar": "/uploads/drawn/42357.png", "rankClass": "civilian", "rankText": "", "posts": "111" } }, "page_num": 1, "locked": 0, "total_pages": 1 }

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